Dear Abby - Love comes too soon for divorcee

DEAR ABBY: I'm a recent divorcee who has started dating again. I have been seeing this guy - also divorced - for a few months, and he recently told me he loves me. There's definitely a mutual attraction, but I'm not ready for love again, which we've discussed in great detail.

When I ask him why he loves me, he can't answer specifically. His usual reply is something along the lines of, "I just do." I can't help but think maybe he doesn't really love me if he can't explain why. Am I overthinking this? Is our relationship moving too fast? -NEW TO THIS IN IDAHO

DEAR NEW TO THIS: Take your time continuing to get to know this man. Divorce can be painful and leave one or both partners feeling a lack of self-esteem.

Because he seems unable to put his feelings into words, instead of asking him why he loves you, let him demonstrate the depth of his love for you through his actions.

DEAR ABBY: My husband's 67-year-old sister borrowed a large sum of money, but my husband told her not to worry about paying it back. They both receive Social Security benefits, but her payments are substantially larger. She supports only herself. His check supports us both.

The problem is that for the past few months, she has been borrowing money she promises to pay back, but when the time comes, instead of repaying it she asks for more money. We can't afford it, but he can't seem to tell his big sister no, and it's causing problems in our marriage.

I'm beginning to resent my husband?s sister for taking more money from us each month, and him for giving it to her. -GOING BROKE IN THE WEST

DEAR GOING BROKE: Tell your husband's sister she won't be getting any more money unless she pays back what she has already "borrowed." Your sister-in-law probably won't like you for it, so be prepared to stand your ground and don't be surprised.

DEAR ABBY: I noticed a very attractive woman coming out of the library. She was wearing a soft, feminine short skirt. I wanted to compliment her, so I walked over and said, "I love your skirt - it looks so pretty." She said, "Thank you!"

We had a great conversation for several minutes, after which we went our separate ways. Afterward I was kicking myself because I didn't ask for her number. It felt good to know that my compliment made her feel pretty.

Do most women appreciate compliments about their clothing? I wouldn't want to make a woman feel uncomfortable. It brightens my day when I can compliment someone. -LARRY IN LOS ANGELES

DEAR LARRY: Not only do most women appreciate a compliment, so do most men. If it brightens your day to offer one, go ahead and do it. And if someone has a problem with that, do not make it your problem.