Understand children during the holidays

AMES — The holiday season is a time of joy and celebration, marked by festive decorations, delicious food and cherished traditions.

However, for parents, it also can be a time of stress and challenges, especially when addressing the temperament of their children.

Understanding and managing children's temperament is crucial for a harmonious holiday season, said Hailey Burgher, a human sciences specialist with Iowa State University Extension and Outreach.

“Temperament refers to the characteristics and traits that children are born with, which influence their emotional and behavioral responses to situations. Understanding your child's temperament can be a valuable tool for parents during the holiday season,” said Burgher, who specializes in family wellbeing.

Children vary in their energy levels. Some are highly active and thrive on physical play, while others are more reserved and prefer quiet activities. The holiday season often involves a mix of both, from lively gatherings to cozy moments at home.

Sensitive children may be more attuned to sensory stimuli, such as bright lights, loud music or the texture of certain foods. The sensory overload that often accompanies holiday celebrations can be overwhelming for these children.

Children with low adaptability may struggle with the disruptions to their usual schedules that often occur during the holidays.

Children with high intensity experience their emotions very deeply and may experience these intense emotions both positively and negatively throughout holiday festivities.

The first step in managing temperament during the holidays is to recognize and accept that each child is unique. Embrace the diversity of your children's temperaments and avoid making comparisons.

Before the holiday season begins, involve your children in the planning process. Discuss which activities, traditions and gatherings are important to them. This open communication can help prepare them for the holiday.

Find a balance between high-energy and low-energy activities. Incorporate active play and downtime into your holiday schedule to accommodate children with varying activity levels.

For children who are sensitive to sensory stimuli, consider their comfort and wellbeing during holiday events. Bring sensory-friendly toys or comfort items to help them regulate their emotions and reduce sensory overload. If possible, create a quiet space where they can retreat if needed.